Getting Over a Breakup
If you’ve experienced a breakup, or are experiencing one choma, you’re not alone. Most people will experience a breakup at some point in their lives. It can be a difficult experience for anyone because of all the negative emotions that come with it. But as hard as it is to get through, it is possible to get over. Here are a few tips choma.
Admit how you feel
A breakup is not always a good experience and it’s okay to admit that you feel angry, sad or disappointed. Bottling up your feelings is like simply saving them for another day. Trying to ignore your feelings means that you’re not dealing with them and this can cause you to take even longer to heal from a breakup. So feel what you need to feel choma. It’s normal to feel hurt by a breakup. Just don’t spend too much time thinking about how bad you feel. You can do a little exercise with yourself where you admit how you feel but also tell yourself that it will pass. For example: “I feel hurt and disappointed by my breakup with___. But I know these feelings will one day pass. I feel this way now, but in time I will move on”.
Be good to yourself
A breakup can make you feel bad about yourself. If you were the one who was broken up with you might sit and think about how you went wrong and how you could have done better. If you’re the one who broke up with your partner, you might experience feelings of guilt and disappointment in yourself. Try not to beat yourself up choma. Sometimes people break up with others for their own reasons, this doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person. If they tell you that they broke up with you because of something that you did or didn’t do, try not to obsess over it or overthink it. Simply use the experience as a lesson.
You still need to consider your own feelings and your relationship with yourself. Self-love is so important choma – and in a situation like this, knowing that you still love yourself allows you (and not someone else) to be in control of what you feel.
Think about ways that you’re better off
A lot of the times, you might only realise why a breakup was actually a good thing months or even years later. This is because time actually shows us why we needed something to happen in order for us to achieve something else. A long time after a breakup you’re finally able to see the relationship for what it was because you’re no longer as emotionally invested. However, you can try your best to come to that realisation now, so that you don’t have to wait years. Be honest about what was wrong in your relationship and how the bad times actually made you feel. Think about all the ways that you’re better off. For example: Less drama, less pressure, more time for myself, more time for my friends, not having to do things that make me uncomfortable, not having to pretend to be something I’m not etc.
Decide to be happy
This might sound strange choma, but deciding that you will be happy no matter what is a good way to make sure that you always do things that are good for you. Try it choma, tell yourself “I want to be happy, no matter what” and see how much easier it is to make healthy decisions for yourself. If you decide that you will be happy no matter what happens in your life, you might spend less time thinking about heartbreak and more time surrounding yourself with people and things that actually have a positive effect on your life. You’ll also find that you have less time for anything or anyone who affects you negatively.
Breakups are really hard, but trust yourself to be able to get over it and to find someone that you will be happy with again. Spend more time with friends and other positive influences. You are worthy of happiness choma so focus on getting that back.
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