Self-Confidence Tips (having a healthy relationship with yourself)
At some point in our lives, most of us have heard the saying “You have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else.” It’s true. How you treat yourself is an indication of how you will treat others and how you will allow others to treat you. Think about it. Would you stick around if a friend constantly mistreated and disrespected you? No ways! So why would you mistreat yourself chomas?
Truth is, there will be days where your self-confidence gets a little low, whether it’s due to a classmate tearing you down for failing a test or someone close to you talking behind your back, but the trick is to not stay in that state because it will tear your self-esteem down. Learning to love and be happy with yourself is important but it does not come overnight, it takes time to have a healthy relationship with yourself. Here’s how to fight back with these confidence boosting tips.
Stop listening to just your inner critical voice
We all have an inner voice that speaks to us all the time, sometimes it comes out of nowhere. However, when we start listening to just the critical part of our inner voice, that voice that is negative and harmful to our self-esteem, it starts dragging us down until we can’t love ourselves enough.
How to stop your inner critic
Everyone has an inner critical voice but not everyone focuses on it because they understand the importance of bringing love into their lives. One important way to do this is by talking only positive things to yourself and learn how to identify your inner voice every time it comes up. If that voice continually makes you feel bad then that’s the critical voice. Learn how to stop it by talking only positive thoughts to yourself.
Be kind to yourself
The best relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself. In order to see yourself as a good friend, you have to be kind to yourself. Maybe you’re heavier than your friends but you are the friend who everyone opens their heart to. Or, you are not that good at Life Sciences but you’re great at sports. Always remember your good qualities and tell yourself that you are enough. Start replacing every negative thought with “I deserve to be happy.” Nothing has to happen to make you worthy, you are already enough.
Stop comparing yourself to others
Comparing yourself to others is unfair to you. So what if you only have 4 friends while one of your best friends has 40, or your home is smaller than most of your classmates’? Those things don’t define you as a person. Yes, they are a part of you but you are not your small house. So, stop comparing yourself to others and focus on being a better friend to those 4 people and making sure your home is happy place for you and your family.
A healthy relationship with yourself means taking the time to know yourself and eventually valuing who you are as a person, this includes knowing and accepting your strengths and weaknesses. It’s one of the most fun journeys you can take with yourself. It’s not easy getting to know who you are but developing a relationship with yourself is one of the most rewarding things you can ever do! Love yourself first and others will have no choice but to love you too!
I’ll leave you with this quote chomas: “The best work you’ll ever do is working on you.” - Robin Sharma
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