How to face your bully in 2017
Chances are that at one point or another, you - or someone you know, has been a victim of either face-to-face or cyber bullying. In a recent survey across the country, more than half of the participants had reported being bullied at school. It’s not hard to see that because of this growing global issue, many young people live in fear every day, which impacts negatively not only on performance in class, but also emotional well-being. There’s no easy way to avoid being bullied, but here are a few ways you can stand up for change and stand up against the problem.
Be the Stronger Person
It’s understandable to mistake a bully for a strong person, when in fact, the opposite has been proven to be true. Bullying is more often than not, an exterior display of a broken interior- meaning, factors such as lack of attention, family problems, low self-esteem and the general desensitisation of violence, all have a part to play in why bullying happens on such a large scale globally. So knowing it’s not your fault, always try when you can to reach out to your bully. Show them what it is to be the better person by offering support and a friendly face should they need it. This level of control over negative feelings towards people who bully can help fight the problem, one person at a time.
Sometimes being the better person as suggested above might not work out, especially when the nature of the bullying has gotten out of hand or become physical. This is when reporting what’s happening may seem impossible because of intimidation and provocation from bullies, but it’s important for you to know that you have rights, choma and taking issues into your own fists won’t be the best solution. Yes, there are those educators or superiors that may not take your issue seriously, so when bringing the matter to their attention, remember to speak in a firm but confident tone, while maintaining respect.
Build a firewall for your soul
It’s only normal for you to feel upset when you find yourself being bullied, verbal attacks can hurt just as much as physical ones. Practice self-care by speaking positivity to yourself each morning and evening, even when you don’t feel up to it. Sometimes the only way to heal is to make yourself feel good, which will always work in your favour. Make sure you’re surrounding yourself with friends who truly care about you and you’ll find that you all form a healthy defence force around each other when the need arises, after all, friends should be like the family that we actually get to choose.
The most important thing is to always remember that what might be happening to you is never your fault, choma and the only part you can actually control is how you decide to respond. Retaliation will only build a sense resentment inside you, allowing negativity to live inside of you, rent free. So remember these words:
“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” – Mary Manin Morrisse
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