The link between bullying and insecurity
If you’ve ever been bullied, I’m sure you know just how hurtful it is to go through, and how much damage it can do to your self-esteem. But have you ever been at a point where you ask yourself “but why am I being bullied?” Or even “Is there something wrong with me?”. The truth is that being bullied has nothing to do with any flaws you might have, instead, it has everything to do with the insecurities a bully has about themselves. Here are some reasons why there is a link between bullying and insecurity.
Firstly, what does insecurity mean?
Being insecure means that you have a lot of self-doubt and don’t ever feel confident in yourself (whether it comes to school, relationships or friendships etc). Does being insecure mean that you’re automatically a bully? No Choma, when it comes to bullying, that’s only a negative way some people express or deal with their insecurity. It’s important to remember that no one has the power to make you feel insecure, and you can control how you respond to negativity around you.
Bullies always focus on other people
It’s not hard to spot someone who’s a bully. Have you ever experienced those kind of people who always have something negative to say about the next person? Have you noticed how they always seem to be focussed on talking about other people but never themselves? This is because hating on other people makes bullies feel better about their own flaws and imperfections. You see, when you’re happy and confident in your own skin, there’s no need to make others feel bad about who they are.
Even though there are different reasons why people choose to bully others, there is never ever an excuse for bullying and putting others down, Choma. You should always strive to be a good person to other people, no matter how they treat you. This doesn’t mean that you should let people take advantage of you though, it just means that you shouldn’t let a negative situation make you bitter.
If you need some help dealing with bullying or figuring out how to get your self-esteem to a healthy place, here are some articles to help you out:
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