Dealing with a broken heart

It's no doubt that we've all experienced heartbreak in some way or another. Whether it is a romantic relationship that ended before you were ready for it to end or having strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. You also feel heartbreak when you and a close friend go your separate ways or one person abandons the friendship. Although the causes can be different, heartbreak is the same – feelings of emptiness, sadness and heaviness. This is something we all go through chomas.

But how do you deal with how you feel?

People will say stuff like "Get over it! You will meet someone else! You're still young! You have your whole life ahead of you". But I can tell you now chomas, when it is happening to you, it's like no one else in the entire world has felt like this before. Here's what to do:

Let it out

Share your feelings with someone you trust. The more you talk about it the better you will feel. Don’' be scared to have a good cry and share your feelings with someone who can relate - perhaps a family member or friend. Getting your emotions out instead of bottling things up can be really healthy.

Distract yourself

It might be difficult when you are down but finding a distraction will definitely help you keep your mind off of things. Do things that you enjoy and that keep you occupied - for example, go to movies, play sports, go to a concert and generally spend more time with your friends and family.

Take good care of yourself

When feelings of sadness take over your mind, it's easy to forget to take good care of yourself. Get the right amount of sleep. Eat healthy and exercise regularly to minimise stress and depression. Taking care of yourself will also your boost self-esteem.

Give yourself time

Time heals all wounds. I'm sure you've heard that saying. It couldn't be truer. At the time you might think that you will never feel normal again but the human soul is an amazing thing and, trust me choma, you will bounce back.

Maintain a positive self-image

When going through a break up, it is important to remind yourself about the good things about yourself. Often, people with broken hearts tend to blame themselves and exaggerate their faults. Stop right there. Make a list of your good qualities and fall in love with yourself again.

People experience things differently, so the amount of time it takes to get over heartbreak is dependent on many things. Some people resort to drugs and alcohol to try make themselves feel better. But chomas, it is important to remember that it is not a realistic approach as that is merely a temporary escape and you are harming your body in the process. By numbing the pain you are not really dealing with the heartbreak at all. It actually just prolongs the whole healing process. Keep clear from self-destructing.

There you go chomas, when it comes to heartbreak, you're now fully equipped for whatever comes your way. If you have any questions, don't forget to Ask Choma!