What is body-shaming?
You might have heard about body-shaming before, which is basically shaming or humiliating someone for the size or shape of their bodies. Thankfully, we live in an era that is all about learning new things and unlearning problematic behaviour - so here is a brief lesson on body shaming, why it’s wrong and how we can treat people better.
What is it?
Body-shaming is an act of humiliating and making someone feel bad about themselves because of their body size or shape. It’s a form of bullying that usually happens on social media or in social settings, like in your friendship circles or at school.
It can also be accompanied by slut-shaming. For example, saying something like “don’t wear those shorts because your thighs are too big or too small” is a form of slut-shaming and body-shaming.
What does it look like?
It’s so easy for people we care about to body-shame us, and we might not even notice that they’re doing it because we assume their words come from a place of concern or caring. Here are a few examples of what body-shaming is:
- Criticising someone’s appearance by comparing them to someone you think looks more attractive than them
- Criticising someone’s weight or appearance
- Telling someone they’re letting go of themselves because they’re gaining or losing too much weight
- Telling someone to go on a diet or exercise
- Telling someone not to wear certain items because their body isn’t “made for it”
Why is it wrong?
Body-shaming is very wrong and it can be mean because you might think you’re saying something that the other person has to hear anyway, not knowing what they’re going through or what they’re dealing with (like trying to overcome an eating disorder), hence the weight gain or loss. It’s also wrong because you’re essentially saying that there is an “ideal” body size or shape that people should strive to be - when there isn’t. Your body shape and size is different to someone else’s and that’s how it should be because we’re all different. There is no such thing as an ideal shape or size. Respect everyone’s bodies.
Being a victim of body-shaming can affect your self-esteem a lot. If you’ve been a victim of body-shaming I can imagine that it has had a really negative affect on you - but don’t let others get to you. I know it may be hard, but it’s important that you love and accept yourself as you are because you are beautiful! I am #DoneWithSilence when it comes to body-shaming and bullying. What about you Choma? Make your #DoneWithSilence post on your social media platforms and don’t forget to tag me and use the hashtag #DoneWithSilence.
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