Building any relationship when you have a low self-esteem can be hard and it can negatively affect how you interact with others, especially your partner. If you can’t see your own worth then it won’t be easy to believe that someone else see you as worthy. Here are 5 ways that your low self-esteem could be affecting your relationship negatively.

You may have trust issues

Due to past disappointments or hurt, you may not trust easily because you’d constantly doubt your partner’s love for you, and the lack of trust in your relationship may end up being a problem.

You may be insecure

Having a low self-esteem will make you insecure about how you feel about yourself and your partner. Them having to constantly convince you that you’re good enough for them may be draining for the both of you.

It makes you vulnerable to abuse

When your self-esteem is low, and you are in a relationship with a toxic person, they might use your insecurities and flaws against you and end up manipulating you – or even worse, abusing you.

It makes it hard for you to connect

A relationship is an endless journey of getting to know each other and making connections, but you might have a hard time connecting to your partner because of your insecurities and low self-esteem.

Discourages you from working on your relationship

With challenges that come with relationships, you might not put enough effort into making your relationship work because you might feel like it doesn’t matter anyway. Your low self-esteem will make you assume that your partner never cared about you.

Being in a relationship should be a balance between loving yourself wholeheartedly and accepting your partner as they are. Before you consider being in a relationship with someone else, you should date yourself first. Read these articles about how to love yourself and work on improving your self-esteem:

6 steps to a healthy self-esteem

Self-confidence tips having a healthy relationship with yourself

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