5 myths we’ve heard about women
We have all heard things like, ‘women don’t get along’ and ‘women don’t support each other’. These are all based on old ideas about women, that are really not true, Choma. There’s way more to women than these myths, which is why I’m debunking all the myths we have heard about women, so we can start changing how we think about our relationships with each other.
Women don’t like each other
We hear a lot about how women can’t get along and how we dislike each other, but the truth is, that we would not see women building businesses and succeeding together, if this were the case. Think about it, since the pandemic started, there have been a lot of women banding together to inspire others online, and exchange words of encouragement.
Women have to compete with each other
This myth comes from old stereotypes about women always having to compete for the attention of a man. There are times when competition between women is healthy, like competing for a job opportunity or for good marks in school, but we are often shown examples of unhealthy competition.
This is not healthy, and it’s important for us to always check ourselves and make sure we are not contributing to this stereotype. For instance, if you find yourself comparing yourself to another woman and competing with them to try and win the attention of a guy, then you need to remind yourself that you don’t need to do that. You don’t need to be around anyone who makes you feel like you need to compete for their attention.
Women don’t want to see other women succeed
The truth is, there are a lot of unfair systems that make it difficult for women to succeed, especially in the workplace. As a result of discrimination and sometimes unfair policies, it’s harder for women to get into positions of power at work, which is why it’s important for those who do make it, to help other women do the same. Women don’t just succeed for themselves, their success helps the families and communities they grow up in, too.
Women don’t have genuine friendships
We see a lot of movies about female friends being fake and women always gossiping about each other, but we don’t see enough healthy friendships being shown. We all have women (friends, relatives, siblings) who support us and offer a genuine shoulder for us to cry on. If you don’t have that yet, Choma, then don’t worry, work on being a genuine friend to someone. Cultivating real friendships takes time and effort. Male and female friends can disappoint you, it’s just about finding the right people to build healthy friendships with.
Women don’t respect each other’s relationships
We live in a society where women are more likely to be blamed when a partner cheats. While there are definitely people who don’t respect other people’s relationships, it’s important to know that someone who lies and cheats while they are in a relationship cannot be trusted and should take full responsibility for their actions.
Getting into relationships with people who are married or in relationships are not just insensitive to their partner, but it also puts you at risk of getting infected with STIs, including HIV.
I know that we have a lot of work to do as a society and women, but it’s good for us to be able to let go of myths and beliefs that don’t serve us. We can’t let these old, stereotypical ideas about women define how we behave and see ourselves as well as other women. Women can support each other; we can be kind and successful and brilliant. The proof is in the hundreds of Choma Queens we celebrate on this platform.
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