Feeling demotivated? Here’s help
Most people experience demotivation at some point in their life. This often happens when you face a stumbling block in an important area of your life and you realise that you have limited coping resources available to overcome them. The COVID - 19 pandemic has been the stumbling block faced by everyone around the world. With a lot of plans suddenly changed, it’s normal to feel like you’ve lost direction, and are uninterested in things you previously enjoyed.
Not all hope is lost, though. There are simple and effective ways to get you motivated again. Here’s how you can overcome demotivation.
Pause and reflect
If you’re feeling demotivated, you’re likely to feel overwhelmed as well. This is an opportunity for you to do some reflecting. Take a moment to really think about what’s causing this feeling. Most of the time, when you identify and understand the root of the problem, you can find ways to resolve it.
Change the way you think
What you choose to focus on tends to inform your thinking and behaviour. For instance, if you focus on the negative things, you’re likely to think negatively, which can be overwhelming and cause you to feel helpless and hopeless. When you catch yourself thinking negatively about your circumstances, simply identify something positive about it. This way, you’ll have a realistic view of your situation and you can think of ways to adapt to it.
Focus on what you can change
Sometimes the reason you get demotivated is that you tend to get stuck trying to change things about a situation that you have no control over. For example, you wish you could change your medical test results. To be honest, this will cause you a lot of frustration.
Shift your focus on things about your situation that you can change. For example, If you’ve tested positive for HIV, you may want to take the advice of your doctor and take your ARV medication daily. If it’s something to do with scholar work, then think about the aspects of the problem that you have control over, in order to feel more empowered.
Do something new
You’re likely to stay demotivated when you insist on using the same methods that didn’t work before. Let go of what didn’t work before and choose a different way to tackle your problems. For example, if you have a tendency to procrastinate before exams, simply start creating a structured study plan, make it realistic and adaptable to your needs.
A lot of the time your motivation can be boosted through an honest and open conversation with a trusted friend or family member. If you’re struggling with sadness and can’t seem to cope with it by yourself, simply reach out to someone and talk through it. I’m also available to chat whenever you need to.
Remember that the year hasn’t ended yet. You can still use these tips to get you feeling motivated and excited about life again. The current circumstances are not permanent and if you stay positive and keep working at it, you can still reach some of your goals.
If you or a friend need advice or help, you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657).
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