Signs of cyberbullying
It’s fun for friends to joke around with each other, but sometimes it’s hard to tell if someone is just having fun or trying to hurt you- especially online. If you ever feel hurt, uncomfortable or think others are laughing at you instead of with you, chances are the joke has gone too far. If this continues even after you’ve asked them to stop, this could be a sign of cyberbullying. Here’s more:
What is cyberbullying?
The Cyberbullying Research Center defines cyberbullying as harm that’s done “on purpose and repeatedly, through the use of computers, cell phones, and other electronic devices”. Examples include spreading lies and rumors, trolling (people who intentionally leave offensive messages in order to get attention, cause trouble or upset someone), posting embarrassing photos or videos of someone, sending hurtful, abusive, or threatening messages, impersonating someone, and sending mean messages through fake accounts on social media platforms.
If you suspect that you or someone you know is being cyberbullied but you’re not sure, here are some signs to look out for:
Feeling uneasy about going to school or outside the house
If you or someone you know is feeling uncomfortable in your school environment or being around classmates because of what they might be saying online, then this is a sign of cyberbullying. Victims usually avoid leaving the safety of their homes and interacting with peers.
Unwilling to share information about online accounts and activity
Increased secretiveness is another sign someone may be cyberbullied. Many will try to hide what’s going on and keep quiet. Like with physical bullying, many victims are afraid to speak out, especially to parents and teachers. Some may even withdraw completely from all social media platforms and online interactions.
Emotional changes
Health-related symptoms like weight loss or gain, headaches, and mood swings are just some of the many ways cyberbullying can take its physical toll. Cyberbullying can also lead to depression, anxiety, sudden anger and lashing out.
Trouble sleeping at night or sleepy during the day
Restlessness is a huge factor when it comes to cyberbullying. If you find yourself unable to sleep because you’re troubled by what cyberbullies are saying about you, then you may need to speak to a trusted friend or counsellor about it.
Withdrawing from close friends and family
Often, people who are bullied avoid their friends and family, which may push people away and distance those in their life.
Where to get help for cyberbullying
If you think you’re being cyberbullied, the first step is to seek help from someone you trust such as a friend, your parents, a close family member or trusted adult (teacher, principal, or community caregiver). If you’re not comfortable talking to someone you know; you can reach out to Childline on their tollfree number: 116. You can also reach out to me.
To prevent cyberbullying, remember the signs so you can recognise them. If the bullying is happening on a social platform, block the bully and formally report their behavior on the platform itself. Social media companies are obligated to keep their users safe.
Remember that you don’t have to go through this alone. Re-gain your power or empower someone else by speaking out and not giving into any type of bullying.
If you or a friend need advice or help, you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657).
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