Coping with the death of a loved one
The death of a loved one is a very painful and sad experience. Sometimes it can be unexpected and sometimes expected,especially if your loved one was seriously ill for a considerable amount of time. Either way, nothing quite prepares you for the loss you feel. During this difficult time it might seem that you can’t go on with life, but just know that the emotions you’ve going through are a normal reaction and that it will take time for you to come to terms with your loss. You’ll need to learn to cope with the death of your loved one.
It’s your right to grieve
Everyone deals with their grief in their own way. There is no set length of time for your period of grieving. Give yourself permission to grieve and the time to do so. You can only be so strong for everyone else or ignore your grief for so long, but you have to at some point deal with the death of your loved one so you can start healing. It’s okay to feel suddenly all alone, be in denial of what has happened or to cry.
In your moments of sadness, you might want to listen to music to calm or uplift your mood. Writing down your feelings in a journal may help you work through them. Looking at old photo albums of you and your loved one can help you feel connected or closer to them. Or you could write a letter to them even though they are not there, expressing your love for them.
Turn to friends and family who care about you for support. It’s a tough time and you will appreciate someone to talk to or just a shoulder to cry on. More often than not, they have experienced similar grief to yours and talking to them about your sorrow can help. Seek comfort in your religious customs and faith to help you through your trying time.
Take care of yourself
When you are overwhelmed with grief it is easy to forget about taking care of your health. Combat unnecessary stress by eating right, getting enough sleep and exercising on a regular basis. Drugs and alcohol may numb your grief temporarily but won’t make it disappear altogether.
Honour the memory of your loved one
Birthdays, anniversaries or special moments shared with the person when they were alive, can easily make you feel sad and upset. Prepare yourself for such things and even though you are sad, take time to honour the memory of your loved one. Remember the happy and fun moments that you shared together. You can honour them by taking up a cause they believed in. Again, coping with the death of a loved one is not easy. Time is a healer and things will get better eventually. Hang on to the good memories and celebrate your loved one's life.
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