How to be best friends forever
The two of you have been joined at the hip practically since you were in nappies. Your best choma can name your favourite everything, she knows she can depend on you on a crisis and you know just how to finish off her sentences.
Being BFF’s means different things to different people, but one thing is for sure - no matter how tight you and your bestie are, sometimes the friendship can suddenly turn sour. Here are common ‘hiccups’ that can cause issues with you and your BFF plus how you can deal with each:
Ignoring your bestie because you have a new guy.
If you’ve made it a habit to dump your choma every time there’s a new guy in the picture then you are not a good friend. Don’t be surprised if your best friend dumps you. You need to strike a balance between your friendship and your new relationship. Be considerate of your bestie’s feelings on this. More often than not, she will be the one to wipe away your tears when your guy decides he’s had enough of you. If you are guilty of this, say sorry and ask her for a second chance.
You are always listening to your choma’s drama of late but she never listens to yours.
Listening to your friend pour her heart out over her failed relationships can be tiring, especially if you offer her good advice and she still seems to land up in the same situation. Maybe she doesn’t realise that she doesn’t listen to your problems as much as you listen to hers. You need to gently tell that this is how you feel. You might also need to add that she needs to change her approach to her relationships as you can’t go on watching her get hurt.
Your bestie made new friends and left you out.
Feeling left out by your bestie, can be an awful feeling. It’s only natural to feel left out especially if the new pals get on well with your bestie and you don’t really like them. Sometimes it’s best to accept that your bestie will have a circle of friends that you will not be a part of. If the two of you still make time to hang out despite her new friends, then there’s no need to get upset. Besides, you can make new friends to hang out with too.
You’ve had an argument and neither of you will admit wrong or apologise.
In this situation it is best to let things blow over for a while. It could be that tempers are still high and the last thing you want is to say or do something that will ruin your friendship forever. It could be just a simple misunderstanding. When things are calmer, you can then talk and better understand each other’s point of view. Apologise and get over it. However, if it is something that you can’t get over, then maybe it’s time to rethink the friendship.
Keep in mind that friendships need acceptance, trust, understanding and communication. You need to have each other’s best interests at heart and you have to both put in the time and effort in building a lasting friendship.
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