Dealing with a jealous friend
She’s the green-eyed monster you just can’t seem to shake. It seems she is forever jealous about everything that is you. She wants what you want, gets upset if you’ve hanging out with other friends and can never be happy for you. She says she’s just being honest and open about things but her behaviour is making life more difficult.
Dealing with a jealous friend can be trying to say the least. It could be your friend is just insecure and she makes herself feel better by negatively criticising and putting other people down.
Short of ignoring her and hoping she will go away, here’s how to deal with her jealousy.
The best way in dealing with a jealous friend is showing her that her negativity will not get you down. You will remain positive no matter what life throws your way.
Sometimes your friend can become jealous because you’ve not spending enough time with her as you did before. Maybe you’ve busy with new activities and have found new friends to hang out with. The least you could do is invite her along the next time you’ve out with your new friends so she feels included.
Help your friend be more confident in herself. Pay her compliments on things she does well. Show her how you got your hair done that way, help her pick out an outfit like yours or give her a few math tips for an upcoming test. Show her that she can be proud of her efforts rather than being jealous of others.
Set the example
Don’t fight jealousy with jealousy. If she excelled in the Math test after your help and manages to beat you by two marks, be happy for her. Praise her for her good work. Hopefully she’ll return the favour when you have reason to celebrate.
Talk it out
It might be a good idea to talk to your friend about her jealous behaviour. Say that you’ve noticed she seems upset and that you’d like to know what is going on so you can help. Explain that being jealous is a normal reaction and you can understand where they are coming from, but their behaviour is being hurtful to you.
Dealing with a jealous friend may take time and patience, but if the jealousy continues to get in the way of your friendship then it might be time to part ways.
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