How to Be More Sex Positive
Being sex positive means having a healthy and positive approach to sex and sexuality. It means that you are able to choose what is right for you when it comes to sex while also respecting that others have the right to choose what’s right for them. It also means that you are able to make healthy and responsible decisions; that you can learn about sex in an open way and that you can embrace your own sexuality.
Now, how do you stay sex positive every day? Here are a few ways:
Educate yourself when it comes to sex. Learn about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), what makes a healthy relationship, how to protect yourself during sex and how to prevent pregnancy. Learning about sex is more than just learning about the act itself Choma. A positive and healthy attitude towards sex means knowing everything that you need to know and using that information in a responsible way. I’ve written many articles on sex and pregnancy and love and relationships. Commit yourself to reading at least one article or piece of information per day that will help you get a better understanding.
Love your body
When you love your body you make healthier decisions about it, everything from sex, to the way you choose to express yourself, and even your attitude. Loving your body also means that you know how to honor it and your boundaries - because you know that your body is worthy of respect.
Loving your body means understand that it belongs to you and no one else. So you do decide when the right time to have is. You also understand that sex doesn’t necessarily equal love and love doesn’t equal sex. There are other ways to show affection, not just with your body.
Consent is everything when it comes to sex. Your body belongs to you and no one should be allowed to do whatever it is they want to do to you. Your body is your own and therefore requires permission to be touched. Understand that you have the right to say no to someone wanting to sleep with you or someone wanting to touch you. You have the right to decide when you are ready to have sex and the right to choose to wait, no matter how long that might take.
Understand others’ choices
This means not being judgmental towards people whose preferences and lifestyles are different to yours. Slut-shaming for example (degrading, embarrassing, insulting or attacking a woman because you think she is promiscuous, behaves too sexually or dresses too sexually), is not sex positive because it shames people for the choices that they make simply because they don’t necessarily fit society’s standards.
It’s not only wrong to shame people for just their choices but also for their sexuality and the way they express it. So whether someone is straight, gay, bisexual or transgender, it’s their life Choma. There's no need to be hateful or harmful towards someone, especially when what they do has no impact on you.
This comes down to making healthy and responsible choices when it comes to engaging in sexual intercourse. Yes Choma, being sex positive includes practising safe sex and feeling confident enough to speak to your partner about it. Having safe sex is not something you need to be shamed for or ashamed of.
These are just a few ways you can be more sex positive Choma. All that it comes down to is being comfortable in your own skin, expressing your right to choose when you have sex and the understanding your right to do it responsibly. Being sex positive is about having a positive attitude towards sex, your sexual identity and your body. It is also about having a positive, understanding attitude towards other people’s differences when it comes to their sexual preferences and their sexuality.
Do you need more advice on sex or relationships? Remember that you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657)
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