Consent is when someone agrees to a decision by choice, and has the freedom and capacity to make that informed decision or choice. So choma, it has to be voluntary and there has to be an agreement between the people involved. When it comes to consent, there is should be no grey area. But some people still don’t know what it means or how to ask for it. Here’s more about consent choma.

Learn how to ask for permission

No one’s body is public property. Your body belongs to you and you alone. Nobody is entitled to touch you without asking you for your permission first. Before embracing someone physically, ask them if it’s OK to touch them first. It shows that you respect the person and you understand consent.

Understand that “no” really means “no”

If someone is uncomfortable with something, is not excited about doing something or doesn’t want to do it then that’s not consent. “No” means “no”, not “maybe” or “later”.

Silence doesn’t mean consent

Keeping quiet about something doesn’t mean you automatically agree. Silence doesn’t always mean “yes”. For some cultures, keeping quiet is a sign of respect. But if someone forces themselves on you and you keep quiet while they do it, it doesn’t mean you are giving them consent.

Anyone’s allowed to change their mind

Anyone is allowed to change their mind about what they want to do at any time of the day choma, it doesn’t matter if you’ve said yes in the beginning or you’ve done it before. If you start to feel uncomfortable about something while in the middle of it, this includes sex with your partner, you can tell them to stop at any time. You are allowed to change your mind.

It shouldn’t be forced

Nothing is enjoyed if it’s done forcefully. Doing something with someone should be a decision that should be made without pressure, manipulation, force or while drunk. It’s hard to make an informed decision if any of those factors take part.

Be specific

Agreeing to do one thing doesn’t mean you’re open to doing other things too. For example, you saying yes to making out with someone at a party doesn’t mean you’re saying “yes” to do other things (like sex).

No such thing as ‘consensual sex’

Consensual sex suggests that there is such a thing as ‘non – consensual sex’ and there is no such thing choma. ‘Non – consensual sex’ is rape. Lack of consent is the same as rape. So choma, if no-one agrees to or understands that they’re having sex, maybe they are drunk or passed out, then that person is being raped.

We have the right to communicate that you matter and our bodies matter. Consent and more importantly, setting boundaries is important.

If we are not given a choice, it can send the wrong message that we should take part in certain physical interactions to simply not cause a scene or be disrespectful, even if it makes us uncomfortable. People need to ask for our permission first before they can touch us. We should all be free to enjoy our bodies and sexuality in ways that are positive for everyone involved.

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