Lets talk about assault on men

Breaking the Silence: Male Assault is Real

Have you ever heard someone say, “Men can’t be physically assaulted because they’re stronger” or “They can’t be raped because they always want sex”? These harmful myths highlight how abuse against men is often dismissed or considered taboo. But the truth is, men can and do experience assault—and it’s time we talked about it.

Why We Don’t Talk About It

From an early age, many boys are taught to suppress their emotions and never see themselves as victims. They are told to “man up” in tough situations and are pressured to fit into a societal idea of masculinity that doesn’t allow vulnerability.

This makes it hard for men to recognize, report, or cope with abuse. In relationships, men may avoid speaking up because they fear ridicule or disbelief. These harmful perceptions perpetuate silence and make healing even harder.

Why We Should Talk About It

Assault doesn’t discriminate—it can happen to anyone, regardless of gender. Men deserve to feel safe and supported, just like anyone else.

Talking openly about male assault helps break down the stigma and creates an environment where men feel comfortable reporting abuse. It also ensures they know where to find help without fear of judgment or shame.

What NOT to Do

When a man confides in you about being assaulted, here are some things you should avoid:

• Making fun of the situation
• Shaming their masculinity
• Telling them to “toughen up”
• Saying they “wanted it”
• Discouraging them from expressing emotions

These responses can be deeply harmful and prevent healing. Instead, offer empathy, validate their experience, and guide them toward resources where they can get help.

The Impact of Assault

The trauma of assault can have long-lasting effects—physically, emotionally, and mentally. For male survivors, it’s especially challenging to seek help when society tells them they should just “move on.” A strong support system is vital for healing, and acknowledging that abuse can happen to anyone, including men, is a crucial step toward change.

Ready to Break the Silence?

If you or someone you know needs advice or help, Choma is here for you. Reach out through:

• Ask Choma
• Facebook Message
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• WhatsApp at 071 172 3657

Let’s work together to break the stigma and create a world where everyone feels safe and supported.