The thought of committing to someone can definitely freak you out, especially if you’re not sure if a committed relationship is something that you want. That can easily cause issues and it may also lead to a break-up. Take this quiz to find out if you are afraid of commitment or not.

Which status do you prefer?

1. Dating different people to avoid disappointment 
2. Being single
3. Dating one person only

Your friend suggests you go on a date with someone they know. Do you…

1. Decline immediately 
2. Promise to think about it 
3. Agree because you have nothing to lose

Do you have difficulty trusting people? 

1. Yes
2. No
3. Kind of

Do you sometimes feel like nobody will choose you because you aren’t perfect enough? 

1. Most of the time
2. Hardly ever
3. Yes 

When you are in a relationship, you…

1. Constantly have doubts about how you really feel about your partner
2. Enjoy the relationship and live for the moment
3. Focus on the negative

RESULTS

Now that you have answered this short quiz, it is time to calculate your results. For you to calculate your results all you have to do is count all your responses to see if you answered mostly A, B or C.

Mostly 1’s

Sounds like you are scared of commitment and letting new people into your life;  probably because you might have been disappointed or heartbroken before.

The truth is, you can’t put your life on hold because you were once betrayed. At some point in your life, you have to deal with your commitment fears so that you can build healthy relationships. Read these articles to help you deal with betrayal or how get over a break-up. 

Mostly 2’s

You sound like you are outgoing and you don’t have any issues with meeting new people. It’s important to remember to stay safe at all times (when you go on date with new people) and that a relationship should always be equal no matter what. 

Mostly 3’s 

You seem to have a lot of trust issues Choma, and a relationship is probably the last thing you should focus on. Before you even think of dating someone else, it is important for you to date yourself first. 

Commitment in a relationship is serious and if you are not ready to commit, then you should respect your partner and let them know, because pretending to have the same interests as them will only hurt them in the end, and possibly lead to a break-up.

Remember, if you or a friend need advice or help, you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657).