We often look to others to make us feel good about ourselves. It’s a reality that we like compliments and enjoy it when others show an interest in us. When it comes to sex chomas, we can get things a bit mixed up – believing that the more sex we have with different people the more desirable we are.

I’m not here to tell you that sex is bad chomas because that’s not true. However, sex can be unhealthy when you rely on it to make you feel better about yourself. When you use your body in a way that involves you feeling good about yourself through other people, then you might actually be suffering more from a low self-esteem than from a high self-esteem.

Sex can be very liberating for some people, making them feel better about themselves. However, when you have to have sex with multiple people so that you can feel confident about yourself, then there is probably something wrong there.

That’’s not liberating (i.e. making you feel free), it’s actually something that can really weigh you down and make your sexual experiences feel like shameful ones, which is what it should never feel like chomas. Having sex when you’re ready will be more rewarding than having sex because you want to feel desired or sexy.

Being confident in your body, no matter what shape or size you are and knowing that you are beautiful in your own right is such an amazing thing. But that feeling should come from within in you rather than relying on someone else’s body to make you feel good about your body, you know?

Whether you’re a boy or girl, more sex doesn’t necessarily mean more confidence. You could be a virgin and still be confident and comfortable with your body.

You could be someone who has slept with a few people and still be confident and comfortable with your body. Self-esteem involves, not only confidence, but also self-respect. A high self-esteem means that you are sure enough of yourself not to have to prove your worth to anyone else. A high self-esteem means that when you have sex it’s because you want to and not because you feel like it will make you look cooler or more interesting or more fun.

You don’t have to get naked to be attractive. You don’t have to get naked for someone else in order to be beautiful. Remember that chomas.