Being independent allows you to live your life the way you want to, without being controlled by anyone. While we need emotional support from the people around us, it’s important for us to work towards being financially independent. Here’s more.

You feel empowered

Being independent means that you don’t rely on anyone (especially a romantic partner) to do certain things for your basic needs to be met. While this does take hard work, it’s definitely worth it in the end because you’ll feel more empowered. You’ll know your own strength and not require anyone else to validate it.

You gain control of your life

When you’re independent, you trust your ability to make important decisions about your life. This doesn’t mean that you’ll never need to ask someone for advice or want to confide in them; it just means that you’re able to take care of yourself and make choices that best suit you.

You invest in yourself

Independent people are able to focus on improving and bettering themselves. In other words, your energy will be used towards personal growth. When you invest in yourself, you’re able to make use of any opportunity that comes your way because of the strong self-belief that independence inspires in you.

How can you be more independent?

Enjoy your own company: spending time alone will give you the chance to do some introspection, which helps you to learn more about yourself. It may be a little bit odd at first, but once you get used to it, you’ll really love spending time alone.

Put yourself first: this will help you prioritise your happiness, which in turn can build self-confidence and self-reliance.

Believe in yourself: in order to be independent, you need to believe in yourself and your capabilities. You need to believe that you deserve nothing but the best and that you’re capable of controlling your life.

Choma, remember that independent people are less likely to stay in abusive relationships for financial security or any other reason. You deserve to live a life that makes you happy and fulfilled, and you can give that to yourself if you put these tips to use.

Remember if you or a friend need advice or help, you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657).