Self-esteem is the opinion we have of ourselves. When you have healthy self-esteem, you tend to feel positive about life in general and this helps you tackle anything life throws at you with grace. When your self-esteem is low, you may tend to be critical and feel negative about yourself.

How does low self-esteem affect you?

If you have low self-esteem or confidence, you may hide away from social situations, avoid trying new things and challenging yourself. Living with low self-esteem can harm your mental health or make you feel unworthy. Others may develop unhealthy habits like smoking and drinking too much, as a way of coping.

Things you can do to build your self-esteem:

• Get to know yourself

Get to know what makes you happy and what you value in life. You can also write this in your journal if you have one.

• Be kind to yourself

Try challenging unkind thoughts about yourself that might automatically put you down.

• Say positive things to yourself

You may do this in front of a mirror, at first it might be uncomfortable but as you do it regularly, it will become more effortless.

• Practise saying no

Being assertive can be difficult if you’re not used to it. Agreeing to too many things to please others can drain you. It’s okay to say no at times. Don’t feel bad about it.

• Avoid comparing yourself to others

Social media can play a huge role in making you compare yourself to how others are and what they are doing. Remember, you’re running your own race.

• Do something nice for yourself

Make your favourite meal or take yourself out.

• Celebrate your successes

Take time to praise yourself for anything you have accomplished, no matter how little it may seem.

• Accept compliments

You could save them up to look over when you’re feeling low or doubtful of yourself.

• Write a list of things you like about yourself

For example, this could be a skill that you’ve learnt or something you do to help other people.

• Build positive relationships

Try to build relationships with people who appreciate and bring out the best in you and avoid people who constantly bring you down.

Remember you may not quickly move from low self-esteem to high self-esteem overnight, but you can make improvements day by day with just a little self-love and appreciation.

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