So you are cheating on your boyfriend, now what?  Poor guy has no clue and you’ve not sure whether to come clean or not.  

The mere thought of having to tell your boyfriend that you’ve been fooling around his back, can no doubt make you feel sick to your stomach.  Cheating puts you at risk of unnecessary emotional stress.  Whether it was a one-time event or an on-going affair, you’ve feeling really guilty about what you’ve done especially as it becomes harder and harder to keep up with all the lying.  If you were not clever enough to use a condom with your cheating partner, you could suddenly find yourself with an STI (sexually transmitted infection) like HIV or even pregnant. It could also be that your fling hasn’t yet told he is already married with three kids!

Cheating causes unnecessary pain, hurt and anger to your partner. Cheating is also a sure way to ruin the trust in your relationship. It certainly wouldn’t be a pleasant feeling at all, if the tables were turned and you found out your boyfriend was cheating on you.  

What do you do next after cheating on your man?

Firstly you need to ask yourself why you were cheating on your boyfriend in the first place. Maybe you got caught up in the moment with an old fling you still have feelings for or you find you boyfriend has become boring and doesn’t give you the attention you need? Whatever the reason, write it down. It could be you and your boyfriend are having issues making it all the more easy for you to cheat on him.  

How to tell your boyfriend about cheating on him?

Knowing why you were cheating on your boyfriend and mustering up the courage to tell him, will help shed some of the guilt you’ve been carrying around. Remember to talk to him calmly, don’t break down crying. You’ll want to do it in person and in private – not on Facebook. Be honest and just tell him as it is.  Apologise to him and let him know that your actions were inexcusable even if you were both having problems in the relationship.

He is going to be angry and hurt, so it’s best to give him his space and let him be. Accept that he might not want to be with you any longer, no matter how sorry you are.  Just be understanding to the fact you have hurt him.

Saving your relationship

If there is any hope of saving your relationship, give your boyfriend time to deal with what you have done, before trying to talk to him about taking you back. Constantly texting him and crying on the phone with him, is not very helpful. If you are going to save your relationship, you must be willing to address the problems in your relationship that fuelled your reasons for cheating. You must also realise, you’ve broken the trust you once shared, and in going forward to re-build your relationship, you will have to be 100% honest with your partner.

Telling your boyfriend you’ve been cheating on him won’t be easy but will let go of some of the guilt you feel and maybe you can work at saving your relationship.