There’s something about “bad boys” that a lot of girls find attractive. And yes, in the beginning the chase and the thrill of the relationship makes you want to stay with the person but over time, a relationship with a bad boy can be emotionally exhausting and unhealthy. This is why I vouch for dating someone who doesn’t play games, is open about how he feels about the relationship, is respectful and actually wants what’s better for you – in other words, the nice guy. Here are 5 more reasons why you should date the nice guy:

He’ll be kind to you

Nice guys are generally sweet and they often want to make you feel good about yourself. He will genuinely be kind to you, he won’t put you down and on top of that, he will not expect anything in return because his main goal is not to simply get into your pants.

He’ll value your opinion 

A nice guy will always value what you have to say, whereas a “bad boy” won’t care, value or respect your opinions because he probably cares more about what value you add to his life instead of the other way around.  

A healthy relationship is one that feels like an equal one. If the relationship is one-sided, then it’s probably an unhealthy relationship. The last thing you want is to be in something that ends up being toxic.

He’ll respect you

Dating someone who is kind and respectful to you and others is good for your wellbeing, and a genuine guy will give you that. It’s important to be with someone who appreciates you, understand that you both have rights in a relationship and doesn’t try to pressure you to do anything that you don’t want to.  

He’ll be honest and upfront with you 

Communication is the most important thing in any relationship and a nice guy will not play mind games with you. He will always be upfront, honest and he’ll fully commit to you.

He’ll be your best friend

A relationship that is based on friendship is always an advantage. Even though you and your partner should always embrace each other’s individuality and spend time apart (because distance makes the heart grow fonder), dating your best friend is fun – plus you get to do everything together.

Bad boys may seem exciting, a little dangerous and come across as confident – but that doesn’t mean they’ll give you the best experience in a relationship. It’s important for you, at any age, to be with someone who will love and respect you and want to see you grow. That’s why you should give nice guys a chance, and give yourself the opportunity to be in a relationship you deserve.

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