5 ways to help yourself when you’re going through a hard time

Life Isn’t Only Filled with Good Times – Here’s How to Make It Through the Hard Times

Choma, life isn’t always about the good times. We all go through tough moments. It’s during these challenging times that we need a little more direction and support. Here’s how to handle those difficult moments and make them work for you.

1. Let It Go

If something isn’t working for you, let it go, choma. Whether it’s a relationship, a friendship, or even something as simple as a ponytail, learn to release what no longer serves you. When it comes to past hurts, remember that what you do with your pain is often more important than the pain itself. Don’t stay stuck in the hurt—it may hold you back from growing and missing out on opportunities to become a better version of yourself. A great way to let go is to accept what has happened, no matter how difficult it may be. Learn from the experience and then slowly release it.

2. Take Responsibility to Change Negative Situations into Positive Ones

Blaming others for your struggles stops you from taking responsibility. Instead of pointing fingers, be aware of when you’re blaming others. Pause, reflect, and try to understand why you’re doing it. Once you get to the root of it, you’ll find that taking responsibility for your actions will help you grow. It’s not always easy, but in time, it will bring you freedom. Realize that no one has control over you—except you, choma!

3. Learn to Live in the Moment

Living in the moment helps you become more present and appreciate where you are. By focusing on the “now,” you create memories that will bring happiness tomorrow. Dwelling on the past or feeling guilty about situations is natural but won’t change anything. If negative emotions dominate your day, it becomes harder to focus on the positive. Understand that it’s your choice to remain in negativity. Re-focus your energy on what makes you happy and embrace the present.

4. Be Thankful

No matter how little you have, choma, practice gratitude for what you do have. Whether it’s the people around you, small things, or opportunities, being thankful opens the door for more good things to come. Take five minutes each day to jot down what you’re grateful for. Show appreciation to those closest to you, whether it’s through a small act of kindness like making tea or doing something thoughtful. Gratitude shifts your focus to the positive, helping you feel happier and more content.

5. Realize You Are Never Alone

Don’t bottle up your emotions or thoughts, choma. Sharing your feelings is important. Talk to a trusted friend, school counselor, or reach out to me through Share Your Story. You don’t have to carry the weight alone—you’re never alone. Expressing your thoughts with someone you trust can make all the difference.

Final Thoughts

Life is full of ups and downs, choma. The key is to focus on the positive. When you shift your mindset to see the good, more positive things will come your way. When tough times do hit (and they will), you’ll be stronger and more courageous to face them. Embracing hard times doesn’t just help you live a fuller life—it helps you grow stronger as a person.