Realizing that you’re in a toxic relationship can be hard to notice in the beginning but by the time you see that you might have not been in the best space, ending the relationship is just one step into the healing process. Toxic relationships can be traumatic which can provoke feelings of anger and shame.

Do you think you might be experiencing relationship trauma, here are a few things to look out for.

Flashbacks

When you start having flashbacks of certain events of the past relationship, these are intrusive thoughts related to the traumatic situation. They can be stressful and cause you to feel as if you’re reliving the event.

Avoidant

You may experience intense fear in the relationship where you become avoidant of your own wants and needs.

Guilt and shame

You might feel feelings of guilt and shame which can make you feel isolated from others. This might make it a bit difficult to form meaningful relationships which can lead to trust issues.

Nightmares

You may struggle to fall asleep or stay asleep. You may also experience

 frightening or disturbing dreams related to the relationship.

When you have been in a traumatic relationship you may find it difficult to establish meaningful relationships. They may seem complicated because of your previous situation, and you may find yourself having trust issues.

Even though it might be a journey, remember that healing is possible through self-care, support, and professional help. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship that empowers you, so don’t blame yourself for the abuse, Choma. Remember, that you can always get immediate assistance and counselling from the Tears Foundation, by dialling *134*7355#.

Remember if you or a friend need advice or help, you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657).